An unnamed woman has left people shocked after she revealed her families attitudes towards interfamily relationships.
In the post titled ‘Why We Marry Our Cousins’, she explains how some of her relatives have married each other.
And reveals that she once kissed one of her cousins and her family encouraged her crush on another.
The unusual post, which was penned anonymously, has racked up 1,200 ‘claps’ on medium.com.
The woman discussed her family history in the blog post.
She explained: “When I was a little girl, I had a crush on an older man.
“I was an elementary school student, and he was a grown adult with a wife and a child. It was a harmless, ridiculous crush that was not reciprocated in any way.
“It’s perfectly common for young girls to crush on older adults, except for the fact that he was my first cousin.”
She explains that in “normal” families, it would be looked down upon to have a crush on your cousin.
But she adds that in her family, she has “plenty” of relatives who are married to other relatives.
In her case, the woman says her family thought the crush was “cute” – although the age gap made a proper relationship impossible.
On family visits, her aunt would make sure her cousin was around for her enjoyment.
And his wife would save Kodak photos of him which the woman kept “under lock and key” in a wooden box.
The woman explained that nobody thought the crush was unusual because “no one cared.”
She explained: “Marrying cousins is widespread in my family, not that anyone thought I was going to marry him.
“He was twenty years my senior and twice married, and those were more pressing reasons against any potential union than the fact that we shared a set of grandparents.”
The woman goes on to explain why so many of her family members have got married to each other.
Firstly, because it is not “frowned upon”, the woman says there isn’t any stigma attached.
She adds: “By the time we find out marrying family members isn’t universally accepted, it’s too late.”
The woman explains that the family practice “goes back to our European roots.”
She continues: “Clusters of people living in small island villages half a century ago would have far fewer options if they eliminated potential matches just because of a few shared ancestors.”
But she says the custom is much less common now as many relatives increasingly moved to the U.S. and realise that options are “far less limited than they were back in the village.”
She reveals at the very end of the essay that she did kiss one of her cousins, but did not marry her.
The post left people shocked with one person warning: “I believe there is an increased risk of genetic deformation in marriages between first cousins.
“So I simply cannot understand why anyone would ever wish to take such a risk.
“It would lead to a lifetime of extra care by parents for a handicapped child and later to pass the burden of care onto its siblings.
“The world is a big place and has enough risks, why knowingly add to them.
“It may be culture, but that is from a time when medical science had not developed and people were less informed.
“In today’s age, to continue and take such a risk is a strange and hard to understand choice.”