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People reflect on the personal wins, milestones, and good things that happened in 2020


What a year (Picture: Getty/Metro.co.uk)

We know. We all know that 2020 has been Bad with a capital B.

But within it, there has also been plenty of goodness. And as we say bye to the year that was, we can still celebrate all the bits of joy we had in the past 12 months.

Whether or not a new job, relationship, career success or just general self-contentment, we can all feel proud for simply surviving an unprecedented time.

And even if you think that your achievement is a small one, there’s merit in that too.

In fact, according to psychotherapist Martina Witter, ‘Success is a journey, not a destination’.

‘Celebrating little wins is critical to monitoring and tracking incremental accomplishments and achievements as it allows you to notice and pay attention to the present moment.,’ she says. ‘Your journey of achievement is sometimes more important than the end goal.’

Here are some of the things people celebrated in 2020:

Saz

‘At 60, I self-published my books, a story in two parts – book two is based on our experience at the birth of our profoundly disabled son and how we dealt with looking after him, while struggling to straddle our British and Indian heritage. It’s been a long journey started writing my book in 2006. But I did it. So anyone else can, too.’

Ritchaz

‘I came from Portugal to the UK, to start university for the first time at 32 years old. Many times I believe I wasn’t supposed to go this far, but here I am, a Black Portuguese in a path that usually excludes people like me.

‘In Portugal, there are many minorities, poverty and violence. And they can’t easily solve those problems. So, by growing on the periphery, children have a high probability of not finishing school. And, in my time, being Black would increase your risk of unfinished education mainly because Black children would be the ones who were more misunderstood by the schools.

‘This year, I am also trying to improve my English and am getting better.’

Sarah

‘I managed to graduate from undergrad this year despite my doctors telling me a few years back that it may never be possible.

‘In 2018 (half way through my second year) I got very ill all of a sudden and was diagnosed with a condition called idiopathic intracranial hypertension. I lost 95% of my sight for a few weeks and was hospitalised for a month, and when it seemed like things weren’t getting better my doctors told me that returning to education would be highly unlikely.

‘But I got emergency surgery a few weeks later which managed to solve everything. I took a year out to recover and then went back in 2019 for my final year. I cried when I got my final results because I genuinely thought this moment would never come, it was an overwhelming sense of relief. As I didn’t have my official graduation, my family threw me a graduation party once lockdown eased, which was really sweet! I also started my masters this year, too.’

Ivana

‘I am a mum of twins and before the lockdown, I was mostly writing and blogging about motherhood to help other mums feel less alone. I was using my own experience with postnatal depression to provide support and help new mums desperately needed. 

‘During the lockdown, I saw mums of even older children being more anxious, worried, and stressed than usual so I decided to take my business to the next level. I completed a life coaching course and started my coaching business as a motherhood life coach helping mums worldwide to become unstuck, confident, and happy.

‘Although this change has not been easy and requested a lot of tears and hard work (mostly at night), I am very glad I took this step. I absolutely love coaching and it is beyond rewarding to be able to help mothers to never have to feel like I did once.’

What things gave you joy this year? (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Yousra

‘My debut YA novel Hijab and Red Lipstick was published during the second national lockdown, and despite lockdown, I managed to get all my edits done and coordinate with my editor and publishers virtually. I didn’t get to have a physical launch event, but 60 people turned up to my virtual launch, and for that I’m very grateful.

‘I was scared that my book wouldn’t sell under lockdown but the online book community has been super supportive and it’s turned out to be the opposite-people are ordering books online more than ever! I am yet to have an in-person celebration, my publishing day celebration was confined to my husband and I having a home delivery pizza.’

Chrystal

‘This year, I moved my family (partner, nine-year-old and five-year-old) over from London to New York for a new job in the city and a life in Harlem. So far, so good.

‘Covid-19 has made me feel so grateful for what I have but to also (safely) embrace adventure and change even more so.

‘It’s sad and frightening to see what’s happening back home in the UK and friends/family getting Covid on top of Brexit. I do worry about home.’

Isabella

‘At the start of this year, I moved back in with my grandparents as my housemate wanted to move in with her boyfriend. I thought it would be fine as I’d be seeing my friends all the time – turns out, I’d be home in Hounslow 24/7.

‘But this forced me to slow down my social, personal and work life, giving my mental health the break I desperately needed. I was able to rest, cook from scratch, exercise and put myself first for once.

‘It also gave me the time I needed to flat hunt, and I’m currently in the process of exchanging on my first home, and I also bought a car to make my life even easier. To top it all off, I met someone who I might not have given a proper chance before, and we’re now together.

‘I’ve just taken things slow and enjoyed life a bit more, reading, watching films, cooking or baking. I feel grateful for all the positive things that have happened.’

Shaheera

‘I had an easy labour!

‘I was pregnant with my first baby, due in May and my family were to travel to me to help with the baby. But due to the lockdown and flight cancellations, my mum couldn’t make it, which meant having no family during the last few months of pregnancy, during delivery and even after.

‘Now, I had been having a smooth pregnancy, except gestational diabetes, but nothing that needed extra care and I was dreading labour but surprisingly, my labour wasn’t as painful as I expected it to be – and I am someone who has a very low threshold of pain.

‘After eight or nine hours of labour, I gave birth to a baby boy. I’d say that to be the highlight of my 2020!

‘As weird as it may sound to most people, I feel that since I didn’t have any family or help around, God was kind to me and I had an easy labour.

‘Plus with the WFH situation, I could take care of the baby myself and work, without having to worry about daycare or added expenses.’

Aliya

‘I had the most incredible year professionally. I’ve written a novel over the last two years and in January, I signed with my dream agent. In July this year, my novel was bought at a multi publisher auction in the UK and as a pre-empt in the U.S.

‘It will be published as a super lead title in July 2021 in the UK and in the U.S. It’s an absolute dream come true!’

Neha

‘My poetry manuscript was accepted for publication by a foreign indie press! It contains poems about religion (Islam), mental health and being brown, so it was a win for me to have someone who believed in foreign stories and tales of another land for a broader scope.’

Nat

‘We got evicted during the first lockdown through a landlady who was refusing to do repairs on the property. However, we refused to let it consume us, and used our energy to find another property more suitable. We used daily beach walks to keep us going and keep us grounded.

‘We did then lose our elderly dog the day before Christmas Eve, and despite how emotional and heartbroken we are, I’m using my grief to write a book about losing your pet and guidance on making the decision, the days before and after, what to expect on the day etc. If I can use this awful experience, and memories of the day at the vets for something good then it can help others.’

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