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No Nut November: Denying yourself pleasure isn’t doing your mind or body any favours

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No Nut November: Denying yourself pleasure isn’t doing your mind or body any favours


He’s smiling because he’s about to boost his mental wellbeing (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

No Nut November is a yearly event that encourages men to go a month without ejaculating – aka busting a nut.

For some, this might look like a harmless challenge to try their, erm, hands at.

Many even use it as a way to raise money for the fight against prostate cancer.

But if you want to raise money for that good cause, then you might want to try Movember instead, because abstaining from orgasms is way less fun and you’ll be denying yourself the host of benefits associated with orgasms.

So just what are these benefits?

For starters, orgasms are a natural pain reliever, and a 2014 Harvard Health Professionals study found that men who ejaculated at least 21 times a month had a 33% lower risk of prostate cancer compared to men who ejaculated four to seven times a month.

Counselling Directory member Tabitha Bast tells us the thinking behind No Nut November is all wrong.

Orgasms can relieve both stress and pain (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

She tells Metro.co.uk: ‘No Nut November – aka how long can you abstain from orgasms for – comes from the same premise as notches on the bedpost – aka how many can you score – and both of these are wrong-footed when it comes to sex.

‘Sex isn’t about how often or how not often, but rather how good. However, we do also know that if you don’t use it… you lose it.

‘We know that sex, be it on your own, or solo, is physically important with keeping blood flow to the genitals. As women get older and estrogen lessens, there’s a very high chance of vaginal atrophy but regular arousal and orgasms can keep your vagina in shape. 

‘For men, erection issues become increasingly common the older you get and whilst you can graduate to a pump to keep it flowing, using your own hand is a good way to not need specialist equipment.’ 

Tabitha says: ‘Touch is a primitive sense that, like exercise, decreases stress and promotes mental wellbeing’ (Picture: Ella Byworth for Metro.co.uk)

There are also mental benefits to sexual pleasure, as orgasms can help improve your mood as they release feel-good hormones called endorphins.

We know that orgasms and masturbation are good for your mental wellbeing. Studies have shown that orgasms can help you sleep better and help relieve stress.

Tabitha adds: ‘Touch is a primitive sense that, like exercise, decreases stress and promotes mental wellbeing, can reduce chances of prostate cancer, even possibly promotes memory.

‘Whether on your own or with another, dopamine or oxytocin are the brain chemicals that help us not just survive but thrive, and you get those with every orgasm. Those neurotransmitters firing together are pretty essential to getting through a pandemic.

‘Sex isn’t just about orgasms of course, partnered sex is communication and connection as much as pleasure, and good sex makes us feel alive whether that’s one night of fun and consensual delight with that friend we’ve always fancied or regularly within a committed and exploratory relationship.

‘In short, happy, connected and pleasurable experiences make our lives meaningful and rich.’

Even though she’s not a fan of No Nut November, Tabitha does think November could instead be used as a time to change ‘the ways we approach sex, especially if it feels sex is a problem or getting in the way of other desires and interests’.

She adds: ‘If you only cum to porn, introduce 50% non-porn wanks to encourage fantasy and enjoying your own in real-life touch as well. If you’re goal orientated in partnered sex take orgasms or PIV/A (Penis in vagina/anus) sex off the table for a while to incorporate new things. 

‘If you’re in a long-term relationship, spend a month bringing back flirting and teasing not just sex-at-bedtime. There’s a myriad of ideas to bring to the sex table, to put quality not quantity central and make yourself a better lover to you and others.

‘Those are great things to focus on for November. Think slower, safer, sexier rather than abstinence.’ 

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