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'My mother-in-law let my nephew latch on and now I don't want her near my baby'


A new mum has shared her fear after her mother-in-law admitted to letting her nephew latch on, even though she’s not lactating and now she doesn’t want to leave her own baby with the older woman

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The mum found. the older woman’s behaviour “disturbing” (stock photo)

A first-time parent has asked for advice online after finding her mother-in-law’s recent behaviour “disturbing”.

The unnamed woman turned to the internet to share how she’d always had a rocky relationship with her husband’s mum, but she had recently gone no contact.

This came after an “inappropriate” incident where she claims her mother-in-law let her two-year-old nephew latch on to her breast as if she was going to feed him – even though she isn’t lactating.

In a post on Reddit’s Just No MIL forum, the new mum from the US, admits this has made her feel “paranoid” that the older woman might try and do the same thing with her own baby and so she doesn’t want them to be near each other.








She let her nephew ‘latch on’ (stock photo)
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She wrote: “MIL allowed two-year-old grandson to try to nurse her.

“MIL and I’s relationship has been rocky since I gave birth and MIL showed up unannounced at three days PP.

“So, we’ve been no contact since six days PP to now which is almost five months. We met up about a month ago where MIL took no responsibility/wouldn’t acknowledge any wrongdoing or even that she had spoken ill of me after my birth. But, we did manage to reach middle ground of at least being cordial for my husband’s sake.

“So this weekend husband mentioned going by my MIL’s for a little with baby so this is the first time they’ve met since she was three days old. We went and MIL was beyond obnoxious and even insulting (tried to rip baby out of my hands twice and at one point even cornering me while baby was asleep, told me I’m spoiling baby).

“The worst part is that I was nursing baby near her and she tells me that two weeks prior she had allowed her grandson to latch her to realize there was nothing there.”








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She continued: “At the time I was mostly ignoring it and the day after I realized how inappropriate it was and I’m disturbed. I don’t want to sexualize breastfeeding, but she’s not lactating!

“I feel like it reaches sexual assault. It has me very paranoid about my child being there so we agreed to keep visits rare, short, and supervised. I think it really disturbed me that she didn’t see the behaviour as inappropriate at all and thought it was a casual way in which to relate to me.

“My SIL is aware and thinks it’s a child issue it seems they are struggling to wean him, but I think she is the adult and should know better.”

The new parent later updated the post to say that her mother-in-law now had zero chance of being left alone with her baby.

“I am not allowing this woman anywhere near my child unsupervised and even supervised. I’ll try to keep baby away. Just wanted to put that out there. I’m a first-time mom and I didn’t want anyone to think I’d be neglectful and ever allow her unsupervised access to my child.”




Dozens of people have since responded to the woman’s post sharing their thoughts on the situation.

One person said: “Follow your instincts, they won’t steer you wrong.”

Another replied: “What the fudge? That’s gross. You just don’t do that. I’m majorly side-eyeing MIL for her behaviour and SIL sweeping it under the rug. Strong boundaries are needed.”

A third added: “If my mother, who I am very close to and love dearly, told me she let my son latch onto her to show him there was ‘nothing there’… I would raise hell. That’s very weird and inappropriate in my opinion. Definitely don’t do visits unsupervised.”

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