My friend disappears every time she gets a new boyfriend

One of my oldest friends is great company – until she gets a boyfriend. Once she does, she completely disappears. She is not a very social person as it is, but once she partners up, everything revolves around her new man. I am getting fed up as I feel I only see her when she is single. The thing is she is a great friend – sweet, caring and kind. She has apologised a few times about being rubbish, but it does not lead to any change in her behaviour. What should I do?

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