'My daughter, 3, doesn't know what a lolly is – she's not missing out'

A mum from Australia says she’s sick and tired of being told her daughter is “missing out” by not eating sweets and refined sugar – insisting she still has plenty of treats

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The mum says she’s sick of people judging her parenting style

A mum-of-two has said she doesn’t ever let her toddler have sweets – and insists her daughter doesn’t even know what a lolly is.

The mum, from Victoria in Australia, says she prefers to give her daughter dried fruits like prunes instead of processed, sugary foods as a treat.

While she thinks she’s doing the best thing for her daughter, she writes on Kidspot that she’s sick of people telling her her tot is “missing out.”

She claims people have said “poor thing” when she’s told them about her daughter’s diet – suggesting she’s depriving her eldest child of treats.

But the mum insists her daughter eats plenty of treats – they just don’t look like other kids’ snacks.

The mum encourages her daughter to eat healthy foods


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She writes: “To her, a dried apricot or a date is a special treat… to the point where I have to limit the amount she eats.”

The mum says she will encourage her daughter to eat all her dinner by telling her she can have two pieces of dried fruit afterwards, which gets her “so excited.”

“I totally love that about her. The excitement in her eyes for the smallest things in life,” she writes.

Of course, the tot knows what chocolate is, and often bakes with her mother. But for the mum, she’s never been a fan of lollies or sweets and doesn’t want her young daughter to be eating them quite yet.

In fact, she says her daughter is so used to getting her sweet fix from fruit that she wouldn’t know what a lolly is if asked.

But the mum insists there’s nothing weird about this – especially considering that the family never eats them or has them in the house.

Her daughter has been given treats at birthday parties before, but shows no interest


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She added she gets fed up with people asking her why she doesn’t give her daughter lollies and sweets, asking: “Why does she need to know what a lolly is?”

She questions what exactly it is that her daughter is missing out on, given that the little one gets plenty of joy and satisfaction from eating dried fruit.

Of course, there are times when her daughter will be given sweets by other people – but she seems to have no interest in eating them.

The mum writes: “She was recently given a party mix packet and literally played with them like toys. She drove the little cars around, played with the snakes, and pretended to give her baby the milk bottles for a good few days.”

She added the family ended up throwing the sweets away, because they weren’t going to get eaten.

As her daughter, who is nearly three years old, continues to learn about the world around her, she hopes she can keep her excited about eating dried fruit for as long as possible, adding she’s “proud” that her daughter doesn’t know what lollies are.

While raising her daughter as well as a younger child, the mum admits she’s just like other parents, and sometimes needs to bribe her toddler into the car in the morning – but she does this using dried fruit.

“We will be in a rush and I’ll say, ‘Quick, if you hop in the car right now I will give you some dried apricots’.”

Then her quick-thinking daughter bargains with her mum, asking for two dates and two apricots, before obliging and getting into the car.

The mum says this type of exchange works for the family, meaning everyone is on time, her daughter is satisfied and she’s eaten a healthy snack.

Looking back on raising her daughter, she thinks the coronavirus lockdowns might have helped her keep her tot on healthy foods – because she simply hasn’t had the chance to be exposed to unhealthy snacks in the earlier years of her life.

So far, her daughter hasn’t been able to attend many birthday parties, have many visitors, or take many trips to the shops.

While the mum says her system works well for the family, she doesn’t pass judgment on parents who do allow their kids to eat sweets and chocolate, arguing: “You do what you want to do.”

She added: “If I don’t want to give my toddlers lollies, I won’t. And I really don’t care what anyone else thinks about that.”

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