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Mum baffled by best friend's 'over the top' reaction to her choice of baby name


Deciding a name for your future child can be difficult, with so many options available.

Not only do you need to find something you love, but then you have to agree with your partner – and naturally your friends and family might have some opinions.

One couple didn’t have an issue choosing a name for their newborn son, but there is one little problem they didn’t anticipate.

The woman’s best friend hates the name – as it reminds her of somewhere she dated as a teenager.

Now the mum-to-be has asked for advice on Reddit on what she should do.



The best friend accused her of being “insensitive”

“My husband (28) has a tradition in his family of the first boy born in the next generation of kids,” she explained.

“The name is really nice and has such deep tradition and meaning for his family, going all the way back to his great-great-great grandfather.

“Our son is the first of the “next generation” of kids to be a boy, so he is blessed with his name. Everyone has been super supportive, except for my best friend.”

She explains that her high school best friend previously dated a boy with the same name.

Now she hates that specific name – and has pulled out of being the boy’s godmother due to her issues with it.

“In high school, she dated a boy with the same name as will be my son’s,” the woman continues.

“This boyfriend was not very kind to her and she has trauma over the relationship.

“From what very little I remember and from what she re-described to me, there was some emotional abuse.

“However, we were 16 at the time and they only dated for 4 months.



The mum-to-be has asked for advice

“That doesn’t discount her feelings or forgive him for any mistreatment, but compared to many things we have both experienced since, it was relatively uneventful and she has literally not mentioned this man to me since probably 11th grade.

“What he did was along the lines of ignoring her to play video games and heated arguments and one time where he caught him texting his ex flirty things.

“When we found out we were having a son and told her the name of the baby, she flipped out.

“She said that I should have gotten her permission before announcing to everyone that I would name my baby that, and that I’m being extremely insensitive because now every time she see’s my baby she’s going to think of her ex.

“I told her she can call him a nickname, even one that doesn’t relate to the name at all, but then she told me I sent her spiraling into a panic attack and that she doesn’t want to be my kids godmother anymore.

“I am obviously very heartbroken. I didn’t mean to demean her trauma, I honestly had just forgotten about it because she never brings him up.

“I personally think it’s silly to throw away a 12 year friendship over this, but after talking to a few of my friends, they said I was incentive to not ask her first.

“Word got back to her that I had been talking to other friends about it, and how upset I was and would do anything for her to forgive me, and she said that she would forgive me if I refused to name my baby that name.

“I said that I loved her but no, that name has special meaning to his family and that I’m not going to break their tradition. She has now blocked me on everything and I feel horrible.”

People on Reddit thought the best friend was being unfair.

One person commented: “If this is real, your friend is an over the top drama queen. Ask HER permission to name YOUR baby? She needs lots of therapy.”

Another agreed, adding: “I mean this in the nicest way possible – you need new friends.”

A third commented: “Your husband’s family has a multi generational tradition that has nothing to do with her and she wants you all to change it bc she got dumped 10 years ago?

“That’s ridiculous. She needs to get over herself.”





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