Meghan Markle has opened up on the devastating news she suffered a miscarriage during the summer.
The Duchess of Sussex revealed her heartbreaking experience and “unbearable grief” in a harrowing opinion piece in the New York Times, which was published this morning.
The 39-year-old told fans in the moving op ed piece that she lost her unborn child in July.
She had been putting first son Archie to bed when she felt a “sharp cramp” and dropped to the floor of the California home she shares with Prince Harry.
She wrote: “After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.
“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second.”
The Duchess described how her husband had been holding her hand hours later as she lay in a hospital bed.
She went on: “Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears.
“Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.”
The former actress recalled the moment when she was asked if she was “okay” by a journalist during a tour of South Africa in 2019.
Talking about how she was battling to keep a “brave face” while juggling her new royal duties as well as breastfeeding a newborn, she told how her “off the cuff reply” seemed to give others permission to “speak their truth”.
Meghan said as she sat in the hospital watching Harry’s “heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine” she knew the only question she could ask in that moment was “Are you OK?”.
In the touching article, Meghan also spoke about the tumultuous year experienced by people across the world due to the coronavirus pandemic.
She highlighted the deaths of Breonna Taylor and George Floyd, violent protests, divisions and the resulting polarisation in her home country, and why everyone needs to come together in times of need, not pull apart.
Meghan and Harry have been living in the US since they quit the Royal Family last year.
The couple are both passionate about speaking out on mental health issues.
They recorded a podcast with a group of teenagers to mark World Mental Health Day in October which they recorded at their Santa Barbara home.
The podcast, titled Teenage Therapy, features a discussion between Harry and Meghan and a group of high school students and sees Harry and Meghan focus on prioritising mental health and ways to remove the various stigma around the issues.
In Meghan’s New York Times article, she touched upon the need for people to discuss issues surrounding wellbeing.
She added: “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage. Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.
“Some have bravely shared their stories; they have opened the door, knowing that when one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same. We have learned that when people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us. In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”
Read the full piece here.