A man has been blasted by his wife for missing her birthday – even though it was the day after his father died.
Sharing his story anonymously, the man said that he hadn’t seen his father much as he developed alcohol problems, which eventually contributed to his death.
In his dad’s final days, the son decided to fly out so he could see him one last time – and sadly he passed away a short time later.
The man had missed his wife’s birthday due to the trip, leaving her to manage their two children alone, so he flew back to spend time with her – but she was furious that he had missed her big day, and wasn’t doing anything special to make up for it.
Posting on Reddit, the man, from America, said: “Last Thursday my father fell and was taken to the ER – he was drunk and was an alcoholic and his liver and body had apparently been just giving out.
“By Saturday it wasn’t looking good and we decided I should fly out. I live on the East Coast but he was in California. I meet my sisters there and by Monday afternoon it was apparent there was no happy ending.
“I held my father’s hand as he took his last breaths and passed away.
“Already feeling guilty about losing my wife’s birthday and her managing our six-month-old and three-year-old without me I got on the first flight home I could at 5:22 AM, less than eight hours after my father’s time of death. She wanted me to take the 10:20 PM red eye.
“Anyway, I get home a little after 3:30 PM take a quick shower then I have to go pick up the pizza to her parents’ house to celebrate her birthday.
“Admittedly, we didn’t have much of a relationship with my father the last time I saw him was our wedding eight years ago but we did talk regularly.
“His alcoholism definitely drove a wedge. Still I’m broken hearted, he was still my dad.
“My step mom scheduled his burial for Friday as she’s Muslim and they apparently bury the dead as quickly as possible so we’re not even going to be there as he’s put to rest, which I feel guilty about.
“I want to do more for my wife’s birthday, but I feel she’s being incredibly insensitive about what I’m going through. And if I mention that she’s not being supportive I’m the bad guy. Eight years of marriage and I’ve never had this experience with her.”
The man shared his story and asked Reddit users for advice, and people quickly commented their views on his situation – with most people saying he did nothing wrong.
One user said: “Jesus christ, I am so sorry. Your wife is being unbelievably cruel and unreasonable.
“You just went through a major trauma, and she’s making it about a failure to celebrate her birthday properly. That’s unloving, unkind, and unworthy behaviour from someone that you’re supposed to trust more than anyone on Earth.
“I lost my dad almost five months ago, and I’m still having functionality problems. The literal day after I was completely out of it.”
Another poster said: “I lost my mom a year and a half ago. I still have days that it hurts so much I can’t breathe and guilt that I couldn’t save her.
“I couldn’t even clean up after the EMTs were gone and couldn’t even cook myself food the next day, much less drive and socialize.
“I would be damned if the day after I found my mother dead someone started fussing I wasn’t celebrating their birthday.”
While someone else said: “I really hope that there’s some outside explanation for her seemingly self-centered behaviour here. Because … oof.”
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