'I'm in my last year of university and I'm really tempted to cheat on my boyfriend'

Agony aunt Coleen Nolan advises a reader who is finding it hard to maintain a long-distance relationship. She says she loves her boyfriend but she feels like she can’t join in the fun with everyone else

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Dear Coleen

I’m a 21-year-old woman in my last year at university and my boyfriend of three years lives 80 miles away.

We see each other every second weekend, but I’m finding the relationship harder to maintain as time goes on and I don’t know where life will take us when we both finish uni this summer.

I hang out with a lot of male friends and there have been several occasions when I’ve kissed guys, but it’s never gone any further, even though I’ve been quite tempted.

I feel very guilty about behaving like this and I do love my boyfriend, but I’m young and sometimes it feels like I can’t join in the fun with everyone else. I keep telling myself I won’t do it again and I’m trying not to! What do you think?

What advice would you give to this reader? Have your say in the comment section

Coleen Nolan is the Mirror’s resident agony aunt

Coleen says

It doesn’t sound as if the long-distance thing is working for you at the moment, so it might be better to admit that– to yourself and to your boyfriend.

Maybe he feels the same way, but neither of you wants to upset the other person.

A “time out” can be really beneficial in helping you to decide where the relationship is going or if it’s now time to call it quits.

Why not suggest a break for two or three months to see how you both feel at the end of it?

You might really miss each other or it could give you the confidence to make it a permanent separation and spread your wings.

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