'I'm demanding a paternity test after wife's out of the blue comment at supermarket'

A man has turned to the internet for some advice after finding himself unable to get his wife’s cruel joke about their child while they were grocery shopping out of his head

After three years together, marriage and welcoming a child into the world, one man has been left questioning his entire relationship after one random quip from his wife while in the supermarket.

The unnamed dad took to Reddit to share the confusing situation he’d found himself in, which has resulted in him ordering a paternity test for his infant.

He explained that there had been no red flags in his marriage until his wife made a cruel comment about fertility in the shop the other day.

His post read: “Am I the a**hole for requesting a paternity test after my wife, joked out of the blue, about our child’s paternity?

“We’ve been together three years, been married one year, and have an infant. Relationship has been the best of my life and relatively smooth throughout – no red flags. Our child is healthy and happy. We’re in a pretty great familial situation currently. We are blessed to really have no real stresses or anxieties.

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“We were at the grocery store and my wife asked me not to purchase something because of potential BPA in the item (a chemical which can leach into food and impact fertility).

“I joked that I clearly didn’t have issues with fertility (since we had a kid as soon as we started trying), and I’ve been consuming that item regularly. Then she joked, ‘well maybe our kid’s not yours.’

“It took me a second to really process what she said, but once I did, I got very sad and upset. I initially told her, ‘don’t joke about that’, and ‘why would you say something like that?’ And I stopped talking the rest of the time at the grocery store. But once we got to the car, the idea had built up enough in my head that I told her I’m going to get a paternity test immediately (I’m shopping on Amazon for one as I write this).”

He goes on to say that his wife pushed back at the idea, asking why he didn’t trust her and being generally very concerned about his reaction.

The dad says he told her: “I understand the idea is ludicrous, but you suggested it, completely out of the blue, and now it’s out there. And there’s no way to put this question away ever again except to actually get a test.

“After a few rounds of this, she acquiesced and left me to go look for a test.”

He added: “I trust my wife, she’s a fantastic person, a successful professional, a great mother, etc. But I had never even fathomed that our child wasn’t mine until she made what was, in all likelihood, the worst joke and retort in history. Am I overreacting? AITA?”

More than 3,000 people responded to the post, with many agreeing the man was overreacting and it was most likely just a joke.

One person replied: “Sounds like a joke. But everyone has a threshold for what is funny. If it will ease your concerns have the test. Then stop joking about it.”

Another said: “I don’t think it was mean spirited but I don’t fault him for feeling this way either. My whole family jokes about my oldest brother being from the milkman bc he has blond hair and blue eyes and we’re all dark-haired and eyed lol.”

A third wrote: “The escalation here is really fast to me. She makes a joke at the cash register and by the time you get to the car, it’s a major issue. That doesn’t seem like you trust your wife especially since you started this joking interaction with the joke about your own fertility. Her joking retort seems completely normal to me. Your response, to ask for a DNA test within maybe twenty minutes is not at all normal to me and may damage this supposedly fabulous relationship.”

“Are you the kind of couple that makes each other the butt of the joke? Because if so, dude you totally set yourself up for the joke. You basically started it by joking about your own fertility. You’re not really an a**hole for stressing yourself out over this but I think if you take a step back and recognize the sequence of events.” posted someone else.

While a different user admitted they’d divorce their husband if they asked for a test: “I find it INCREDIBLY weird that you’d welcome a paternity test unless you were in an open relationship. If my husband asked for one, I’d consider divorcing him.”

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