'I won't babysit my grandson unless my daughter pays me – I'm not a daycare'

A grandmother has ruffled feathers on Reddit for demanding an hourly rate to look after her baby grandson – arguing she has her own life and her own income

Grandmother plays with her grandkids
An anonymous grandmother has taken a stand over childcare for her grandson

For parents of youngsters, finding childcare for a reasonable price can prove incredibly difficult.

Indeed, many parents decide not to go back to work after giving birth, because paying for childcare would eat so far into their salary, it’s not worth it.

But for the lucky ones, there are relatives on hand to shoulder the burden and help out with watching the little ones – whether it’s grandparents, aunties or uncles.

One anonymous grandmother, whose daughter will soon return to work after year of maternity leave, has been asked to do exactly this for her baby grandson, NZ Herald reports.

Writing on Reddit, the grandmother says her 29-year-old daughter has asked her to watch the baby for two or three days a week while she works.

The anonymous wants to spend quality time with her grandson but feels she’s owed a fee


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She writes: “She works five days a week, about 7-8 hours a day from 7.30am-3pm, and asked me if I would be willing to babysit her son either two or three days a week.”

The grandmother says she’ll be happy to spend quality time with her grandson, but adds that she demanded an hourly rate of $12 (£9.05) to take him on.

According to her, the daughter agreed she should pay her mother for looking after the baby, but instead suggested a lower rate of $10 (£7.50) per hour.

Writing about this exchange, the grandmother said: “She claims that she cannot afford it, even with her $22-an-hour job (£16.60).

“I’m not a daycare, I have my own life, I work for myself and I think she should understand that I’d be giving up my time when I work from home, and if I’m going to be giving up that time then I need money to replace that time I’m giving up from my job.”

She argued that, by looking after her grandson, she’d have to give up her own income and so needed to ensure the money she’d be earning for babysitting would be worthwhile.

After stating her case for a higher hourly rate, some people struggled to sympathise with the grandmother, suggesting she had a “lack of empathy” for her daughter.

Some pointed out that the woman was asking for quite a large chunk of her daughter’s salary – adding up to nearly 2/3 before tax.

Others said that, if she wasn’t keen on babysitting her grandson, she should just be honest about it so her daughter could find someone else to do it.

Plenty of people had sympathy with the grandmother, claiming that she has every right to charge for her time, but agreed she was asking for a little too much money.

Some argued that, although the mum would have to pay a similar amount for childcare at a nursery, the people looking after her son there would have childcare qualifications – unlike the grandmother.

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