'I regret having a baby so much and if I could go back in time I'd stop myself'

A mum has shared a heartbreaking warning online for those thinking of having children.

In an anonymous post on the parenting forum, Mumsnet, a woman admitted she “regrets” having a baby and wishes she could go back in time.

She tells those considering having their own child not to do it – or if they do to do so at their own risk.

“If you’re thinking of having a baby – don’t. Or do. But be aware it may ruin your life,” she writes.

The parent goes on to stress that she loves her seven-month-old son more than anything, but it does little to dampen the regret she feels.

She wishes she could go back in time (stock photo)

“I regret having a baby so much. It has absolutely destroyed my physical and mental health and it’s impossible for me to envisage a time where I will ever be happy again.

“I used to be a vibrant, interesting, fun person with a great family life and hobbies, purpose and fulfilment.

“I’m now a shell of my former self, my world is so, so small.”

She says that if she could go back to a time before her child was born and not remember he ever existed, she would do so “without hesitation”.

“I wish with all my heart and soul I hadn’t done it,” the mum exclaims.

Hundreds of people responded to the post on the Am I Being Unreasonable section of the site, offering words of support for the unnamed parent.

One person said: “I couldn’t read this and run. I am so sorry you feel this way. Motherhood is certainly brutal and terrifying. I remember that trapped feeling very well.”

Another wrote: “Oh I felt like that when mine were that age. I think the first 3-4 years can be brutal depending on the nature of the child. It WILL get easier and more enjoyable, especially if you stick with just the one. Hang in there it’s not forever.”

A third replied: “There is a huge pressure on new mums to be over the moon despite the first year being very hard for many, many women.”

Some suggested the mum may have postnatal depression and urged her to seek help – but not everyone was convinced.

A different user added: “Just for the record, you don’t need to have PND to feel this way. Having children can wreck your mental heath, your body that you will never get back, your finances and freedom. Women need to be educated about the reality and not be influenced so heavily on social media. I feel for you.”

Do you love being a parent or have you struggled with it? Let us know in the comments below.


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