Breastfeeding is one of the most intimate and sacred moments between a mother and baby.
Some mothers are unable to breastfeed and others make the personal choice not to for a variety of different reasons.
Though medical advice promotes the health benefits of breastfeeding, it is accepted that the choice should be made based on what is best for mum and baby.
But for one Reddit user, her decision not to breastfeed has caused a blow-up with her in-laws.
Taking to the social media platform, the 26-year-old mum reached out to other users for their opinion on the spat.
She said: “I gave birth to mine and my husband’s first child recently. His family are so happy. But they have been very pushy and judgmental about my choice to formula feed exclusively.
“It was mostly said to my husband first and he told them not to give me s*** for our choice, he wanted to take the pressure off me, he respected my decision 100%.”
The mum said that the conversation didn’t end there and said that her mother-in-law kept bringing up the conversation.
She wrote: “My mother-in-law talked about how much it benefits baby and how breast should always be a mother’s first choice. I told her it was not mine and to please respect my decision. She apologised and said she would drop it and three days ago they were supposed to come over.”
The planned visit is where things took a turn for the worst according to the post.
“My mother in law said they were stopping by the pharmacy first. I thought okay, let me know when you’re on the way.
“She texted me back 35 minutes later that she had something to help me get into breastfeeding and she’d brought literature from her clinic, to help me. She’s a lactation consultant and a member of a breastfeeding group.
“I told her no, I had made myself clear and if that’s why they were really coming they could just not come because I wouldn’t be letting them in. They came anyway and I followed through. I didn’t let them in.”
Her in-laws waited outside for three hours before her husband arrived. He then asked his parents to leave and refused to take the leaflets that they brought.
Asking Reddit users for their opinions, the mum said: “They say I was an a**hole for not letting them in and his siblings are p****ed that I reacted so childishly. Do you agree?”
The post divided Redditors with some taking the side of the first-time mum and others understanding the mother-in-law’s reaction.
One said: “They were disrespectful as hell, you’ve been very clear on your boundaries, and you enforced them. I know I’m just a stranger on the internet but please know that I am proud of you.”
Another added: “Breast feeding is the best option IMO but it’s not for everyone for various reasons. Some are just choice, some are not. And it can be difficult and even distressing even if mothers really want to. But the OP made a choice. It’s hers to make. She doesn’t need to explain or justify her choice. End of.”
One user wrote: “People who try to pressure parents to breastfeed are creepy, intrusive weirdos.”
Another said: “Fed is best. Period. End of sentence. Discussion closed.”
In contrast, one said: “I don’t think you realise how important breastfeeding is. Good luck.”
Another said: “There are degrees of awful behaviour and the lactation expert being pushy about lactation does not necessitate a ‘blow up any possible future relationship with the in-laws’ reaction.
“You and your husband need to sit down with the parents and explain that you would love to have a great relationship with them but they need to be aware of how touchy you are about breastfeeding and all of you guys need to apologise to each other and agree to a fresh start.”