Dear Coleen, For a few months now, my husband hasn’t wanted to have sex.
Whenever I initiate something in bed, he just pushes me away.
I’ve tried all sorts – romantic dinners to get him in the mood, sexy outfits and so on, but none of it has had any effect.
However, the rest of the time he’s completely normal and happy, and hasn’t even mentioned the lack of sex.
I’m starting to feel demoralised and unattractive and not sure where to go from here. Any tips?
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You need to talk about it! OK, it’s not easy to have that conversation, but it’s essential.
At the moment, there’s no communication between you.
So stop putting on a show for him and ask him why he’s not into it right now. Be empathetic rather than accusing him of anything.
There could be lots of reasons why and probably none of them are to do with him not loving you or fancying you any more.
Maybe he’s stressed about work or feeling low. Take the pressure off having sex and see what happens – maybe he’ll feel more relaxed and then will initiate it himself.
It’s good that you’re trying to build a more intimate connection with romantic gestures, but you still have to talk!